Working moms often live the life of a juggler, carefully balancing their career needs against the needs of their home and children. There doesn’t seem to be enough time for everything in a day that contains only 24 hours.
One area that seems to suffer the most from this time crunch is relationships. Factors such as stress and fatigue can really sap our energy; at the end of the day romance is often the last thing on our minds.
Working parents sacrifice romance, it often leads to feeling a disconnect with their spouses that can spell trouble down the line. This lost connection is as unintentional as it is unfortunate, but it doesn’t have to happen.
Working mothers can reignite that spark in their relationship and re-establish a connection with their partner in ways that take only a little extra effort; the time involved is worth the investment.
Make Time Together
Making time together does not always mean setting aside an official date night every week. While those are nice and should occur as often as possible, the fact is it that isn’t always possible when you have a career and a family.
Try to grab little moments together throughout the day; they add up. Even the joy and comfort of sitting and holding hands or enjoying a glass of wine together in the evening can work wonders.
Rediscover your spontaneous, playful side. Smile at your spouse and grab them and kiss them just because.
Remember the Little Things
Do you remember when you first met your partner, those little things that you did just to let them know you cared, that you were thinking about them? Let them know you’re still thinking about them, that the love is there. Make an effort each day to show it. It takes only seconds to send a text, write a little note, or call just to say “Hello.” Leave a note in their lunch or on the bed beside with them in the morning, send them a spontaneous email at work, leave a card in their car so they start their day off with a reminder of how you care, or pack their favorite cookies their suitcase before they leave on a trip. There are dozens of simple and meaningful ways working moms can keep the romance alive. And, it is as good for you and your personal happiness as it is for your relationship. Doing nice things for others makes us feel good.
Learn to let go of little annoyances that add up and cause resentment. Take the time to remember why you fell in love in the first place and allow those things that aren’t important to disappear. In the bigger picture, does it really matter who left the cap off the toothpaste?
Make Time for Yourself
Take time to take care of yourself. You can’t be there for anyone if you feel tired and depleted. When you feel refreshed, when you make the effort to take care of yourself, it is easier for that feeling of well-being to flow into other areas of your life.
Carve out 15-20 of time each day just to reflect, to breath, and to recharge. Whether you soak in a hot bath late in the evening or get a half hour of peace before the rest of the household wakes up, there are opportunities during the day when you can find the time alone to regroup.
In the end it’s all about prioritizing. You may think you don’t have a minute to spare, but if you add up those little time-wasters we all indulge in: computers, TV, and other distractions, you may find that some of them are worth giving up in order to make time to nurture yourself and your relationship.